Staying Possitive .

Today I have a lovely lady ask me to do a post about ''STAYING POSSITIVE''.

This lady has just turned 15 years old and is called Olivia from Olivia's Catastrophe so please go check her out .

                         ''Happy Belated Birthday Olivia''
First of all we all know how quickly things can get ontop of us .

• Struggling 
• Grieving
• Heartache

These are the ones we hear about most often when someone is feeling down and less possitive about things and when they feel down, you feel down so what can we do to help ?

We tend to have bias opinions towards our failures and negativity and so our brains are more likely to store and seek out negative memories.

Now there is no way  you can wipe clean your memories but you can make the bad ones into good ones by thinking about them in a different way.For instance:-

Losing a loved one:-

Losing  a loved one can be heartbreaking and over the years you may find yourself feeling down at the slightest thought of them. For me , It has to be the certain scent of a perume my mum used to wear.
I suddenly feel down and depressed, I want to cry and be with her . Thing is there is always some other memory to replace that memory of losing my mum and the last itme I seen her in the hospital bed and they are always happier moments

• Being only 8 years old, I was ill from school but suddenly felt better once it hit time for school to start (I was never allowed a day of school so getting away with having a sudden high temperature and feeling instantly better with in an hour was  a great feeling) . My mum and I spent the day , music blasting (usually Shakespear Sisters or UB40 ) , side shuffling down the hallway dancing away helping her to spring clean the house ready for Easter.
• Giving birth to my first daughter and having my mum there with me. She claimed she was feeling my contractions and so stole my gas and air , we spent the night with me in labour , mum high as a kite and me laughing at her because she looked in more pain than I did .

It is very easy to sit and feel self pity, blame and anger but if you learn to appreciate the things you have like your friends, family and health and all the great fun memories, it can help you stay possitive.

Things do get better. Your negative feelings wont last forever, forever is only as long as you let it be .

Having low self esteme is also something I have struggled with these past years. It has increased my anxiety to the point where Ii no longer feel worth anything , no confidence , paranoid daily thinking the worst will happen just drained every piece of me and sucked the life from my soul.
Blogging became a great help with starting the recovery for me. The doctors told me to write a journal of my everyday events and seek each days events for something that could be making me feel negative every day. This is why I started blogging, but instead of this I thought why should I write my personal day , instead seeing alot of others writing about possitive things throughout their day made me feel better . I have found this past year I have built up my confidence and my self esteem is slowely buiding to the point I almost feel proud at times, even more so when people love and comment on my blog posts saying they enjoyed reading and loved my post. The best thing is

                        '' No Panick Attacks for a year''.


My top 3 tips for staying possitive :-

• Think Possitive - If you feel negative about something , think about a possitive . I bet you could think of 5 more possitive memories to every 1 negative memory  you have.
• Take action -  If you feel your negativity is because of something you are or are not doing then try and change it, feeling unfit- go for a walk for half hour, feeling low- visit friends or even better organise a get together , ect. Only you can make you feel better .
• Seek support - If you feel your negativity is hard to shift, seek help, dont ever think you are the only person who does not suffer from depression, negative thoughts or feelings, some people cope differently to others and there is always someone to help you , visit your nearest doctors,clinic or centre . The first step is admitting you need help .

So how do you cope, have you suffered from any of the above situations, how do you stay possitive?