Being mum to 7 gives me very little time to myself but having them all in full time school now , it means I have more time on my hands than I can sometimes handle and sometimes its pretty lonely after being used to all the noise and commotion I have had to deal with for so long.
I am not alone no more though!
Baby bump is growing and it wont be long before he makes his arrival , 15 weeks if you want to count them up and for me it is flying way to quickly .
My worry is one I had when I initially took the choice not to have any more children before I found out I was expecting again.
How am I going to be able to take time to bond with this baby especially when there are so many others that take up the other load of my time?.
The answer is I already am!
So many people ask me ''How do you cope, how do you manage''?
My answer is always the same , ''I'm a mum first and that is my priority''.
Luckily for me , I have a husband and although he is not at home all day , I still find him to be my rock in the mornings and nights when I feel he does try his hardest to share his time with them to and also take a load of my strains if ever there is one and believe me , each day is not as rosy as some may think. Being such a large family is chaos and crazy at times and there are days when I simply want to run away or close the door but I think my past helps me overcome the battles of each event and chaotic moment because deep down I truly know how blessed I really am to have a family in the first place .
So let me share with you what our average school day is like.
Here is a little of my routine of each day-
See , the day is not so hectic , pretty much just the same as everyone else but we have more family included.
With organised washing machine routines and larger cooking pans , it means our family have a well organised routine and I think routine and a very good communication between me and my husband has to be our key to making it all work .
I get my own space each day while they are school and in bed and although I spend that time on my blog , I spend my time this way because I enjoy it and it is not every day. Sometimes on days when my husband has a day of , we go for a drive out to the shops or where ever we need to go and so it means I am still going to have the time to be mum to a new born , what choice do I have?
We have to make time, I said the same when I only had one child then two and so on.
At the moment , bump is already getting so much of my time and attention.
Each morning I wake up with wriggling in my tummy and I have a little stroke then when I get back from school and sit down I sometimes play lullabies to him as he really likes to listen to music .
All the children especially Kaiden and Drew spend as much time stroking and talking to their baby brother while in between their routines of the day and at night time me and my husband have a little connection time with bump together .
We play music, stroke, massage , talk to bump and dance it is all we can do until he arrives .
At weekends my husband ensures that he is not working and so we use this time to take trips out or spend it as a family and in summer it is our most relaxing time as we can get out to beaches or national parks more.
Last week , we ended up going on a last minute drive to Washington for my husbands Fathers Day gift then to Sunderland for a walk around the shops and some dinner then ended up in Toys R us giving the kids the task to finding a toy each with a strict budget each and of course we bought bump something to ready for his arrival from the Babies R us section (I love that place , I get to enjoy being a child and mum all in one place ).
It is costly having so many children, my husband works hard so we can do and have the things we have and because we do not get weekends out as adults with friends or holidays abroad due to the fact they cost so much and we can not find somewhere that caters for us all in one hotel as well as quitting smoking , we do tend to get to enjoy at least one or two weekends out and about .
It is a very rare occasion that my husband and I get our time with out the children , our last one was last September for our Anniversary .
We prefer to spend our time as a family and I know our routine will be knocked upside down when little one comes along but once again we will find time to fit everything in and each child will still get their own time with mum and dad and each other.
Most of all we will always love each and every one of our children and our time will always be spent doing what we can to ensure each child is loved and cared for , even if it does mean our home becomes an even longer conveyor belt for showers and bathroom visits, our connection to our children will still be as strong as it was when we held them for the very first time.